Over protective Mother

[unixfreak]

Greetings,

This is my first post here. I could use some advice or some biblical references to an issue that's going on.

I've raised all 5 of my children to be personally responsible. That seems to be a lost trait amongst a lot of youth as I see it. My 27 year old step daughter is the 6th child that I've raised and her mother (my wife) doesn't want her to work. She has no problems letting her hang out with people while she (we) pay her insurance every month, as well as gas for her vehicle - not to mention repairs on her car. Sigh.

I don't want to draw a line in the sand over this. The wife says that she know's that God wants it that way for now. I told her that God also wants us to take care of our personal responsibilities as well.

Can anyone advise me on this. I'm not hearing from God in that manner. She's hurting her daughter by not letting her grow up to be a member of society.

[RabbiKnife]

Paul was clear…

If any man(person) will not work, he shall not eat.

A short time perhaps to get on one’s feet, but if you have time to hang out with friends you have time and energy to work

But she isn’t t your child…. she’s someone else’s baggage that came with your current wife

You are correct
The 27 year old is harmed by this behavior

[Oscar_Kipling]

Greetings,

This is my first post here. I could use some advice or some biblical references to an issue that's going on.

I've raised all 5 of my children to be personally responsible. That seems to be a lost trait amongst a lot of youth as I see it. My 27 year old step daughter is the 6th child that I've raised and her mother (my wife) doesn't want her to work. She has no problems letting her hang out with people while she (we) pay her insurance every month, as well as gas for her vehicle - not to mention repairs on her car. Sigh.

I don't want to draw a line in the sand over this. The wife says that she know's that God wants it that way for now. I told her that God also wants us to take care of our personal responsibilities as well.

Can anyone advise me on this. I'm not hearing from God in that manner. She's hurting her daughter by not letting her grow up to be a member of society.

there is so little information here, Honestly this seems like the kind of thing you, your wife and your step daughter should be sitting down and hashing out . Perhaps if you can all get everything out on the table you might be able to start coming up with solutions that work for everyone.

[ProDeo]

I hear you, I have seen the examples. The main tragic of situations like this is that when parents die the not grown up kid suddenly is without safety net and keeps falling and falling. Maybe your wife will listen to an authoritative person.

[ProDeo]

Marriages are fun, a real life example. For my wife I am just her (non-expert) husband, she is my (non-expert) wife and that works both ways when there are disagreements. At a certain moment I said to her, you should go to the doctor with that, she said no followed by a lot of excuses, you are not a doctor is a great closing remark that stops the conversation.

Then I say, but I am worried about you, will you PLEASE take away my worries and see the man? She murmurs a bit and goes, comes home with a prescription, authority worked.

[Athanasius]

Greetings,

This is my first post here. I could use some advice or some biblical references to an issue that's going on.

I've raised all 5 of my children to be personally responsible. That seems to be a lost trait amongst a lot of youth as I see it. My 27 year old step daughter is the 6th child that I've raised and her mother (my wife) doesn't want her to work. She has no problems letting her hang out with people while she (we) pay her insurance every month, as well as gas for her vehicle - not to mention repairs on her car. Sigh.

I don't want to draw a line in the sand over this. The wife says that she know's that God wants it that way for now. I told her that God also wants us to take care of our personal responsibilities as well.

Can anyone advise me on this. I'm not hearing from God in that manner. She's hurting her daughter by not letting her grow up to be a member of society.

The short answer are:

- It's time for relationship counselling.
- The 27 year old is being harmed, devouring mother perhaps, and all that.

[DavidGYoung]

What is the nature of the insurance you are paying on a twenty-seven-year-old stepdaughter?

Also, why does she need a car?

[hisleast]

The wife says that she know's that God wants it that way for now. I told her that God also wants us to take care of our personal responsibilities as well.

Pray, how does she "know"?

[RabbiKnife]

Feels

Not bible

[Fenris]

Pray, how does she "know"?

[Rebecca]

Greetings,

This is my first post here. I could use some advice or some biblical references to an issue that's going on.

I've raised all 5 of my children to be personally responsible. That seems to be a lost trait amongst a lot of youth as I see it. My 27 year old step daughter is the 6th child that I've raised and her mother (my wife) doesn't want her to work. She has no problems letting her hang out with people while she (we) pay her insurance every month, as well as gas for her vehicle - not to mention repairs on her car. Sigh.

I don't want to draw a line in the sand over this. The wife says that she know's that God wants it that way for now. I told her that God also wants us to take care of our personal responsibilities as well.

Can anyone advise me on this. I'm not hearing from God in that manner. She's hurting her daughter by not letting her grow up to be a member of society.

The wife says that she know's that God wants it that way for now. Husbands are the head of the Christian, Bible believing family.

[RabbiKnife]

If he sacrifices himself out of love for his wife

[Rebecca]

True in this case the daughter is being sacrificed.